I believe our brains change as we get older but as a 69 yo woman I strongly disagree with the way the author characterizes the change below.
We are programmed to care and without that I can’t imagine human culture or I don’t want to imagine it. It can’t be reduced to people pleasing its caring and to do so sacrificing and offering ourselves
Dr. Brizendine explains that as women age, there is a decrease in estrogen waves which changes the way the brain handles anger and disappointment. “The younger female brain diverts the impulse to stand up for ourselves and for the values that we hold,” she says. “We’re trying to impose that we’re supposed to be perfect and the people pleaser.”
Interesting. Being happy, more direct and gaining focus are all really important aspects of any persons life. Young women need to learn radical self care and stop all the people pleasing and putting themselves last - not wait until they are older! We need a cultural overhaul.