I really enjoyed reading this. It pulled me out of the murky hole that I sometimes unknowingly dig myself in, especially from working as an employee of a large corporation where a “go getter” mentality is the norm.
“They see life as a moral drama and feel fulfilled only when they are enmeshed in a struggle on behalf of some ideal.” Whenever difficult situations arise, I’m just going to call them “moral dramas.” That phrase reframes the situation/puts it in an all new light.
Totally agree. That quote resonated in me also. As well as seeing suffering (and happiness) as part of some larger narrative. Helpful to be reminded of this, as sometimes it's very unclear where this "larger narrative" is leading, haha.
Some good pointers.....can I change in my mis sixties? I Dunno.
Ha! We are all always changing, it’s whether we choose to do it consciously or not. If you’re a gambler, roll the dice and let someone/something else prompt your change. But if you are a creative, decide what the new you would look and feel like. And have fun with the possibilities and process.
Really great article on who we want to be. Collecting the eulogy traits instead of the resume traits.
Thanks for sharing! Authenticity comes up a few times. It should be on the bucket list. Nobody wants “a humiliating gap [...] between your actual self and your desired self.” That’s a nightmare. I’m attracted to people who can’t not be the thing they really are, no matter the ramifications. First you have to hear the inner voice. Then you have to let it call the shots. Like many of the most important things in life, it’s both a mindset and a skill.