I feel so vindicated. I was once a terrible gossip who has purposely shifted over the years to a person who loves to discuss the (honest, genuine) tension or omissions or incompatibilities at work or among my friend group. I fully agree that gossiping is character suicide if there is malicious intent or no independent research done to corroborate the chatter.

Probably should have read this before buying the house. Ah well. :)

thanks for posting @christina. i needed this.