I almost couldn't finish this article because I was so infuriated. Let’s first start with virginity as a social construct, because the author clearly didn’t do any primary research himself. The idea of virginity as a construct does not mean that women view sex as meaningless. It is a rejection of the narrative that your virginity is tied to your purity, your self worth, and once you ‘lose’ that, especially if it’s not in a way that’s deemed special, you are seen as less valued. As women, we are told we must ‘lose’ our virginity to the right person––an unequal pressure that you rarely see portrayed with the same gravity to the opposite sex. Saying virginity is a social construct is a way for women to reclaim their decision without the pressure that’s been projected onto us since puberty.
“The fictional rape crisis on American campuses” I’m sure we’ve all heard the statistic that one in five women in college experience sexual assault. 11.2 million women attended college in the fall of 2018 so we’re talking about 2.24 million women that will be sexually assaulted. This is not fictional to me. Not to mention that 4 out of 5 college women don’t report their assault to authorities. Why? Because when they do assholes like this author tell them it is ‘fictional.’
My guess is the author has never actually spoken to a sexual assault survivor; they aren’t obsessed with the idea that they were assaulted or raped. They want to forget, they remain friendly with their abusers because doing otherwise would mean accepting what happened to them.
The author frames consent as a buzzword, as some murky area that is impossible understand. It’s not. We need to stop perpetuating this attitude that consent is something that’s difficult to learn or ask for. If asking someone if they want to have sex “ruins the mood,” you were probably the only one in the mood in the first place. Great video explaining consent: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oQbei5JGiT8
Again, can’t stress how much I hated this piece and think the author's attitude towards consent and female sexuality are actively harmful to women and sexual assault survivors.
This whole culture is totally insane to me. I used to be a private tutor and remember working with 6 year olds to make sure they were getting into the most elite elementary school (where tuition for 2nd grade was more expensive than my grad school). I really started to feel bad, in a way, for the children that were being pushed down this path that they weren’t interested in. A lot of the parents weren’t really looking out for their kids best interests but only wanted the prestige that comes with elite academia.
- courtneyscouted3 years ago
wasn't expecting to find this story as interesting as I did!
Super interesting piece. I think we’re still a long way away from using brain signals to communicate
It's crazy to me that so many children don't have access to the measles vaccine and yet affluent people in the U.S. and Europe actively choose not to vaccinate their children based on a bogus, redacted article about vaccines and autism.
This is so heartbreaking
This is totally insane!